SPONSOR/SPONSEE FOURTH STEP WORKSHEET
"We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."
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Many of us sat with a Fourth Step guide and looked at it with fear. We ask ourselves is this necessary? The purpose of this worksheet is to prepare us for this step. When we understand this step and why it must be done, our attitude can be of positive expectation, rather than one of fear and panic.
Now let's take a look at what the Fourth Step is about. What is a moral inventory? Most of us are pretty good at taking an inventory of someone else without even knowing the facts and motives connected with that person, but now we are going to take our own inventory, using self honesty on all the facts and feelings connected with our attitude, personalities and behaviors. That is exactly what a morel inventory is. We are going to look at our values and morals throughout our lives, including now.
When you begin to write on the topics of your guide, you are not to write just your personal history, but the feelings connected with the act as well as the feelings you have about them today. You may ask why so much concern about feelings? The reason for this is the fourth step is going to introduce you to your real self. The purpose of this step is not to judge you, but let you become aware of yourself as you were in your past and how you are today, so you know what you need to change in your life, attitudes and behavior. This step will also release the stored up guilt you have been carrying with you. You will realize that you are not responsible for many of the things you did in your addiction. Your disease is responsible for that. You will become aware, however, that you are responsible for recovery. There are no longer excuses, because you realize you must live the steps daily or you will die spiritually, emotionally and physically.
The first three steps gave us a foundation to be able to live life on its own terms. The steps Four through Nine are the cleansing steps that will give the power to live life. The steps Ten through Twelve are the maintenance steps, so you can see we can't take any of the steps lightly. Knowing now that the Fourth Step is the doorway to the cleaning and release steps, we can go forward with an attitude of positive expectation for the new life we are growing into.
You must begin the Fourth Step by setting the goal and writing daily. Don't try to write the perfect manuscript. Write as honest as you can and don't go back over it and edit any of it. If you can't remember what you wrote, that is OK. It won't hurt to write the same again. Keep your attitude positive, the purpose of this for you to get to know yourself better.
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When you are done with your Fourth Step you will keep it to identify patterns, defects, shortcomings and amends. You will need this when working the other cleaning and release steps. As you begin to write, even though you are doing the work, you are not alone. Your higher power, the NA program and the WE of the program are with you.
Write out the following questions and answers on a separate paper and return to your sponsor.
1. What is a moral inventory of ourselves?
2. What quality of character must be used in taking an inventory?
3. Why is the Fourth Step so important?
4. What do feelings have to do with the fourth step?
5. Why is the fourth step not a history, a confession and a judgment?
6. What will a fourth step do for you?
7. Are you responsible for your past?
8. What are you responsible for?
9. When will you start the fourth step and how are you going to do it?
10. What is the Foundation Step?
11. What are the cleansing and release steps?
12. What are the maintenance steps?
13. Use NA 4th Step Guide
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SPONSOR/SPONSEE FIFTH STEP WORKSHEET
"We admitted to God, to ourselves, and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs."
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The purpose of this worksheet is to prepare you to do your Fifth Step. Once your Fourth Step is done, don't look at it. Put it away until you sit down with your sponsor. Many of us addicts put off doing the Fifth Step after we finished our Fourth Step because of fear. This feeling of fear is with us because we don't really understand the Fifth Step. The reason we are doing a Fifth Step is to have someone help us know ourselves and give us direction based on their experience in working a program of recovery. As an addict it is quite normal to want to isolate and say we can do it alone and each time we do that we get ourselves in trouble. Remember the Second Step tells us we must do things differently if we want a different outcome. We must reach out for trust to be delivered from the insanity of isolation.
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The purpose of sharing your Fourth Step with another person and your higher power is not to judge you but to help you know yourself and guide you in areas that you need help. Two of the most important qualities you will get from doing a Fifth Step are open mindedness and willingness. A spiritual awakening you will receive is that you are not unique and different. You find that by sharing your inventory with another addict that they have experienced everything you have, either physically or they have thought about doing it. Many people, places, events and circumstances may be different, but the feelings are the same. After doing this step you will have a much better understanding of the "WE" of the program. Now is the time to go forward, pray to the higher power of your understanding and set a time to sit with your NA sponsor to do your Fifth Step.
Write out the following questions and answer on a separate paper and return to your sponsor:
1. Why is it necessary to do the Fifth Step?
2. Write in the gift I will receive in my recovery from doing a Fifth Step.
3. What type of spiritual awakening will receive from the Fifth Step?
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"We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character."
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Entirely ready are the key words in this step. The very act of living Steps One thru Five makes us entirely ready, we just need to recognize this and know our defects can be removed. A question that is always asked is- How does God remove all these defects of character? The answer can be found in the Third Step. Before we can use the Third Step in relation to the Sixth Step, we must do some footwork. Our higher power will always work through us and other recovering addicts, as long as we are willing to provide the perspiration, our higher power will provide the motivation.
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One way we do the footwork is to make a list of all our defects. On one side of a piece of paper list defects of character, draw a line down the center of the paper. Across from each defect on the other side of the line we list the opposite of each defect such as:
Intolerance Tolerance
Fear Courage
Resentments Forgiveness
After we have completed this list to the best of our ability, we can now focus on assets we wish to have. This becomes a goal.
Now that we are entirely ready to have God remove these defects of character we will move on to the Seventh Step. Most of us, being the addicts we are say this sounds too simple, but remember the Sixth Step says: "We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." and this is what we did, became entirely ready. During the fourth step we came in touch with our innermost feelings and ourselves. During our Fifth Step we came in touch with our higher power, ourselves and another human being. During the Sixth Step we used the information from the Fourth and Fifth Steps to see our defects of character and patterns. We looked at them and went through the work of listing them on paper. All of this adds up to being entirely ready.
Write on a separate piece of paper and return to your sponsor:
1. What are the key words of this step and what do those words mean to me?
2. When did we become aware that we are entirely ready?
3. How does God remove these defects of character?
4. What do I replace my defects with?
5. Write your list of defects and their opposites.
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